I started writing a post about my epic trip to Europe and then I felt the brakes come on with a hard screech. Who the hell cares how great my trips are? There were not so great moments in that month away, grief still crept in and I found myself in tears, nearly nine years later. When the hell is that going to stop? Likely never!!
Then came the death by suicide of a young woman that I have known for several years. She left 2 little girls and some bewildered friends. She has lived with real grief for so many years and it just breaks my heart to think of the times she shouted out and nobody was listening. People don’t “listen” because, most of the time, they don’t know what to listen for. They are caught up in their own shit. Everybody has something to be sad about on any given day. Grief. What do we do about it or with it? It’s something I carry around everyday, like a rock in my pocket. Time, does not Heal All Wounds. There are scars that are left and sometimes we get into such a place of deep despair that the pain is just too much to deal with. That’s what happened to this young woman in what should have been the best time in her life. It hit so hard for a few reasons but I think the biggest being that she’s the same age as my kids and those to motherless little girls are the same age as grand daughters. I’ve know the family for many years and there has been such tragic events. When she was 16 her younger brother, a good friend to my youngest son, was killed on his dirt bike on a country road. Several years later her estranged mother took her own life and following that her dad took his life. This woman has had heaps of pain and seemed to put on a happy face and face her life. She got her education to be a school teacher, she always seemed to be doing fun things by following her posts on Facebook. In spite of all the crap she’d been through, it appeared that she had it all together. Wake-up call! I want to get out there and recognise when this pain is happening in peoples lives and try to help them find a way to living a good, mostly happy life.
I was sitting in meditation with tears running down my face when it came to me. My Niche…The friggin thing that has stopped me from putting myself out there as a Health and Life Coach. You see, we’re supposed to have one of those so we can pinpoint what it is we can do to help people. GRIEF. The one word descriptor popped into my head. I started this whole self improvement/discovery journey largely in part because of my own grief following John’s death. The life changing things that happen to most every human on the planet. Grief is not always due to death of a person. It can be due to the death of a marriage, retirement (death of a daily routine), kids moving away (death of purpose). So many things can cause us humans to fall into that pit. Illness, there’s another one that just popped into my head. I’ve personally been through that one too. I want to get out there and start coaching on the ways to overcome grief and find new purpose when it feels like all is lost.
This is kind of what I have done personally. After John passed away I needed to do something and learn who Lisa really is. Lisa, not wife, mother or daughter. I enrolled in a home staging course because I have always been told I’m organised and have a good sense of style when it comes to decorating. I don’t see it in myself but I thought what the heck and did it anyway. That’s the first certificate that hangs on the wall in my office. I have never staged anyone’s house, although I could. Next came the Health and Life Coaching Certificate. I have always liked healthy food and exercise so again, what the heck. It was something I thought I could do remotely and travel and work at the same time. I gravitate towards the life coaching but I am well trained in helping with habit change to develop a healthy life style. Then, last January I enrolled into a Yoga Teacher Training and am now a Certified Yoga Teacher. This is a great skill set when it’s all put together into a tidy package. I want to share these skills and help my clients in all the ways. I can guide in getting organised and clearing the clutter in your home to start to clear the clutter in your head. This is just a very minimal start to the ways I get my clients to a happy, more contented way of life and reduce the overwhelm and anxiety that seems to plague so many.
I love humans and everyone deserves to be living their best lives, From The Inside Out!!
